Don’t fault yourself for being afraid of taking that big step–the massive action that needs to happen to realize your dreams! It’s a natural response to moving out of your comfort zone. But while you shouldn’t chastise yourself for feeling fearful, neither should you wallow in it so that you never get past it. When fear rears its ugly head, use these simple tactics to put it in perspective, move on, and reach your goals.
Recognize fear is only a feeling
Fear can feel very, very real. But it’s only an emotion that survives and thrives when we dwell on it and start to believe it. The first step in mastering your fear of taking massive action is to remember to tell yourself that fear isn’t real–that it’s only a feeling that can’t hurt you. Remember the phrase: Fear = False Evidence Appearing Real. Challenge your thoughts to change them.
Remember, everyone has experienced fear of failure
Everyone experiences fear before they try something new. Think Tony Robbins or Oprah haven’t experienced fear of failure? Sure they have, and I’m sure both have stated this in the past. Everyone has experienced fear of failure, the fear of looking like a fool, the fear of losing friends when you become too famous, too wealthy, too thin, or whatever. When a moment of panic comes over you, take a sec to look at those with success and that they overcame; reflect back on your past ‘failures’ and how you overcame them.
Take the first small step
We’ve all heard Newton’s 1st Law of Motion: A body at rest tends to stay at rest, while a body in motion tends to stay in motion. Notice that feeling of fear, and then take that first small step in spite of it. Starting small doesn’t feel threatening so you continue the actions taken. You will feel amazing after you’ve done that one little thing. You’ll realize that you can do it, and you’ll be excited to take that next step. Fear will be replaced by enthusiasm!
Use a lifeline
Sometimes we recognize fear for what it is, but can’t seem to get over the hurdle anyway. That’s the right time to call in some reinforcements. Get ahold of a friend, colleague or family member who is totally on board with your goal. Buy them a cup of coffee and talk to them about your feelings. Join a support group of others who are seeking the same goal, such as through Meetup (whatever city you’re in). Go talk to a therapist or a coach who can help you manage your fears so you go after them. You don’t have to struggle alone.
Fear is actually a way for our brains to help us manage them but, when they get to the point that they hold you back or lead to emotional and psychological problems, it’s time to do something about them. Work on these steps to manage them – you are stronger than you believe.,
“FEAR has two meanings:
Forget Everything And Run.
Face Everything And Rise.”
Which will you choose??
